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<v Noltner>Which is to say, we gotta practice.

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We've got to exercise those muscles.

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If you want to be good at free
throws, shoot 10,000 free throws.

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If you want to be good at conversations
around division,

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you gotta have a bunch of conversations
around division.

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And when when those muscles are weak.

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And I really think collectively
they are weak.

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And I think we just have to practice
those conversations.

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<v Jamison>I'm J.R.

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Jamison.

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Today on the Facing Project, I sit down
with award winning photographer,

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author, and peace activist
John Noltner to talk about photography

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as a form of storytelling that explores
the common humanity that unites us.

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And we discuss his latest
book, Lessons on the Road

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to Peace, that covers
his 45,000 mile journey across the US.

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Stay with us.

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[Theme music]

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<v Jamison>This season, I'm doing something
a little different to mix up our format.

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I’ll still share stories

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from past Facing Projects to shine
a light on specific topics and issues.

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But also, I'll sit down for long
form interviews with business executives,

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bestselling authors, filmmakers,
and other artists

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who are using their platforms
to make the world a more understanding

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and empathetic place, asking each of them
the same question:

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How do we create a more empathetic world
in a time when listening has decreased

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and each person's message is competing
with millions of others?

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Today's guest is John Noltner,
an award winning photographer, author,

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and peace activist who has spent the past
15 years collecting photos

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and narratives from around the world
while asking each participant

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a few guiding questions, such as:
What does peace mean to you?

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And what gives you hope?

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These photos and narratives
lead to displays in communities

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where people can literally see how they
and their neighbors answered, often

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transpiring into deeper discussions around
commonalities rather than differences.

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In 2020, John and his wife
Karen sold their home

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and took off in a travel trailer,
and eventually only a van,

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to dedicate more time and energy
to collect these narratives,

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that has led to John's latest
book, Lessons on the Road to Peace.

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John Noltner, award winning photographer,

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author and founder of A Peace of My Mind,

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thank you for joining me on The Facing
Project.

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<v Noltner>Thanks for having me, J.R..

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<v Jamison>At heart,
you're a storyteller and the work you now

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do is multi-media,
but the basis is photography.

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What is it about photography
that tells a deeper story?

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Take me back to your roots.

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<v Noltner>So my degree was in journalism
in storytelling.

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But my storytelling has often happened
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And I spent,

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I spent 20 years
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shooting for national magazines
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and, man,
I am just in love with the still image.

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You know, there's something
about a still image that captures a moment

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and allows you to study it
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in a way that we don't get to do
in our day to day lives

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in, in a way that's inappropriate
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sometimes, to really be able to look

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and study this moment.

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You know, our world is fleeting

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and our input, is constantly coming at us
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But to capture that moment
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is, is a process that I've been in love
with for all of my life.

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<v Jamison>Do you find when you,
I mean, the work that you do

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now is is a little different,
I mean, still based on photography.

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And we'll talk a little more
about that here in a moment.

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But do you find when you take photographs
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with A Peace of, of My Mind,
do you find that

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you're telling a story in your head
as you take these photos?

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<v Noltner>[laughter] Yeah, all the time.

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It's, the camera is an extension of me,

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and it's also my excuse
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Yeah, maybe not excuse, but it's my,
it's my process for exploring the world.

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And so when I'm taking pictures,

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it's helping me to look at things
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And it's helping me to notice
subtle nuances in light

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and composition
and the interaction between people.

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And it is, it's an inactive
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And so it's, 
it's a nonstop running commentary.

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And my wife Karen will joke
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together

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and I'm debating whether I should
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please bring my bring your camera
because you'll be agonizing

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at the lack of process
if you don't get it.”

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So, yeah,
it has become an extension of who I am.

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<v Jamison>What was it about that reflective process

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of doing your own photography
as an independent photographer?

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Right?

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And also doing your own photography
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and kind of reflecting on these

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own stories as you're capturing these,
these stills, right?

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What was it about that process
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“Ah, there's something here,”
which then became A Peace of My Mind?

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<v Noltner>Oh, yeah, that's a great question.

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I, as a as an assignment photographer,

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the routine is that somebody approaches
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to photograph the assignment
that they're interested in.

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well, and

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I love that process because I got to go
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and a rainforest research station
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pediatric hospitals
to tell the stories of doctors

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and just this fascinating,
wonderful stuff.

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But I felt like I was responding
to somebody else's request all the time

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waiting for that call to come in,
which would then trigger action.

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In that process, I came to see

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sort of that beauty and wisdom
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photographing people,
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I had something
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It wasn't just about responding
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and fulfilling an assignment
and capturing those images, but to be able

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to sort of offer my vision to the world
and bring that bigger view.

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That, that really

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planted the seed

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and the desire for me to do a long term
project of my own.

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<v Jamison>In the early days of your work,
when you started

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A Peace of My Mind back in 2009, correct?

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In those early days you would ask
participants a question, and that was,

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“What does peace mean to you?”
Which seems like such a simple question.

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But that simple question is really deep.

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And on your site, I mean, if folks go

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and they read through these narratives,
they're they're deep, these quotes.

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So turning the tables a bit.

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What does peace mean to you?

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For me peace is a

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collective pursuit.

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I mean, we can talk about the notion
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absence of war and the absence

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of violence and,
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And in a certain sense, that's,
that's like the lowest bar, right?

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That we got to at least get there.

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But I'm also fascinated
by this notion of positive peace.

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Which is to create the environment

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where all people can thrive,
where people have the opportunity

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to have meaning
and purpose and connection in their lives.

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And for me, that that sense of peace,

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I mean, this is almost rooted in Doctor
King's notion of beloved community, right?

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Those people around you
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whether you see it
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And, and and so for me, this

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sense of peace is not just
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Right? I'm not....

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If all of my needs are taken care

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of, that brings me a certain
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But it's
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also have that level of needs
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available, that,
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of my collective sense of peace.

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<v Jamison>I love that idea.

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You know,
when I think of peace myself, I've-

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And this seems really selfish, I guess,

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but I've never really thought
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I guess maybe I have, like,
when I think about peace, it's

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the first part of, of, of your response,
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more of, if people can live authentically.

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But I love how simple that question is,
but it makes people

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think, and I imagine
that every response is different.

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<v Noltner>Well,
when I started this project,

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I thought I'd
maybe do a couple dozen interviews

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and then we would run out of things
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[Laughs]
We would have exhausted the conversation.

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But in fact, I've done
hundreds of these interviews now, and,

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and people always bring new experience
and new new personal insights

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into these conversations
based on how they've traveled through life

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and who they've encountered
and the situations in front of them.

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You know, I've, I've come to call
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mean to you?” I've come to call that
my gateway question.

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Because it really just opens
an opportunity for people

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to talk about what's on their hearts,
to really dig deep and share

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mission,
vision and values in the, in the world.

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And I mean, I've, I've, I've met people
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and I, I have yet to meet somebody
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a little bit more peace into their lives,
whether it's they,

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you know, their immediate family or their
their neighborhood or the bigger world.

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You know, even my friends
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I think would prefer to stay home
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So so it's this great

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equalizer in this incredibly
polarized world that we live in.

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It is an opportunity to find common ground
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so that people can can share
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<v Jamison>And we call this bridge building.

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You and I both work in bridge
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and some folks are like,
“What is bridge building?”

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But the work that we do really is bringing
people together in unexpected ways

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that maybe don't always agree or
have different opinions about the world.

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But that very simple question brings
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You've traveled all over the world.

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You've been to communities
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What themes
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<v Noltner>All right.

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I'm going to answer that question
in just a minute.

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But first I'm going to share.

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[Laughs] You said the word bridge building
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There's a funny story.

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My last book came out.

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This is the way Amazon
and the algorithms work, right?

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And I entered in the
keywords “bridge building,”

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and then I

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also entered into the keywords,
“photography,” and some other things.

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And when Amazon,
when my book went for sale,

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I was listed as number one in “photography
of bridges.” Jamison: Oh, no!

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[Laughter]

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I'm like,
that's not the category I belong in!

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[Laughing continues] Jamison: But
just think about all the people who maybe

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found your book
that way, who love actual bridges

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and maybe it opened their mind
in different ways, right?

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<v Noltner>All three of them, in fact!

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[Laughter]

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So, this is the world we live in.

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But, yeah, you asked about
some of the themes that I'm seeing, and,

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you know, everywhere that I go,

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I see a desire for people

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to feel seen and heard

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and valued.

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You know, there are so many instances
in our lives where that doesn't happen,

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where we don't feel affirmed,
where we don't feel recognized,

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where we don't feel like
our authentic selves are are honored.

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And there's there's all sorts of negative

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stuff that ripples out from that struggle.

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And when that is present,
it's remarkable to me

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how well people can navigate all of these
other hurdles and struggles in the world,

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that, if we just have a sense of
of being seen and heard

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and valued, a whole bunch of good stuff
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What another thing I see
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you know,
and I think especially during the,

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the pandemic, we
we lost a lot of our natural connections.

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And I worry sometimes that we've settled
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expectation
for what those connections can be.

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And part of what I hope
A Peace of My Mind can do

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is to help communities and individuals
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some of those processes
of connection, re-invigorate

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some of those muscles and exercise them
so that we can build those skills.

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if anything out of

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the pandemic,
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that we are all a little bit

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more connected than we ever understood, 
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all more deeply vulnerable
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if we could hold those two things in

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our interactions as we go through
communal life, it just feels like

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we could make more space and grace
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<v Jamison>We are living during a time
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we're the most divided
we've been in quite some time.

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I think, I argue, sometimes social media
obviously plays a big part of that,

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because the algorithms,
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it puts us into different categories,
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We're lumped into silos at times.

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So we don't often
see other point of views.

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And when we do see those other
point of views, we're so used to being

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in our own camp that it almost becomes
like fight or flight in many ways.

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In your
opinion, what do you think is holding

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people back from making these connections
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that we're afraid of doing it wrong.

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I think so often it's been modeled for us
that if you launch into these difficult

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spaces that you will encounter pain,
and then you'll, you'll encounter

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some sort of,
you know, negative reaction.

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And I think people are concerned
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I think that there's a lot of pride

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that gets in the way of being vulnerable.

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You know, confirmation bias tells us

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that we will look for all of the evidence
that proves that we're right,

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and we will work overtime to ignore
anything that refutes our position.

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And there's a lot of pride
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I think that we,

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I mean, life is full and life is busy

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and we we've got to sort of
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And I think we develop these

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these methodologies where we try to hold,

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we try to push back on anything
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or anything

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that's going to make us vulnerable
or anything that's going to make us,

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you know, have to have to struggle
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we're insulating ourselves
from the very best of what human

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engagement
and experience and connection can be.

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reach across those divides.

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It needs to be an intentional act
to not launch

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into the most contentious issue
with this person we just met.

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But to first do the hard work

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of building a foundation
on building a little bit of connection.

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You know, I think so often
we just jump right into the fire

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and somehow we're surprised
that we get burned.

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But we, we need to be willing to do that
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To build the relationship
to to sustain the engagement

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if it's going to turn into anything
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<v Jamison>As you've been in these communities

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helping to tell these stories
with your guiding questions,

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have you seen anyone be surprised
in the moment

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when there's the grand debut
of their own stories in their communities?

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You do these really wonderful displays.

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Do you have any stories around

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how folks have reacted
to their own stories, seeing them,

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and how they have reacted to
maybe others in their community

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who they don't have a relationship
with, or not

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a strong relationship, but they see that
they've gone through that process too.

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Have you
have you seen anything like that happen?

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<v Noltner>Oh yeah, all the time.

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And it's what sustains me on the days
when I get really tired from

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from showing up and doing this work.

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But let me,

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let me just give you a little background
for the listeners.

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So we'll very often
come into a community,

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a college, 
a conference, a faith community,

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and we'll set up a studio
and we will ask a question that

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we've sort of determined collaboratively.

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It's questions like, “When
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When have you bridge the divide?

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When have you felt a sense of belonging?”
You know, questions

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like this, that again, let people
talk about mission, vision and values.

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And people will write a response
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We'll do a black and white portrait and
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And so the goal is to create

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this whole body of work of the community
talking about this issue.

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And then at the end of it
we have some sort of public event.

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And we share the stories back.

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So that may mean I do a keynote lecture,

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and we have a little six minute video
that includes some of their stories.

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It may mean that we print them out
and we host them in a physical display.

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Last month in New York Mills, Minnesota,
a little rural community,

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they had this great set of grain
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and we actually projected
178 of their local stories

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on the side of the grain elevator.

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people start to

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see themselves
and their peers in new ways.

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You know, they start to get this,
this different sense of who

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the people are around them
because they'll look at stories

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and they'll go, “Oh,
I didn't know they went through that.

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I didn't know they lost their parent
like I just did.

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I didn't know they struggled with
these feelings of this.” Because I don't

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I don't know what the magic of
this is actually, other than people

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feeling seen and heard and valued.

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But when you create a space
to listen like this,

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people will share
some really powerful stuff.

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And and so really vulnerable stuff.

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And I'll just share one,

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one example with you of
when I've seen this play out, there are,

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there are anecdotes day in and day out,
like I said, that sustain me.

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But I was at a retreat center
in Washington state up in the Cascades.

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It's called Holden Village,
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This was the second year I had done this.

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And a woman who I didn't know I had
seen her before, but I didn't really know

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her, came up and said, “Boy, last year
I was intimidated to do your thing,

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but by God, I'm going to do it
this year.” I'm like, “Okay, great.

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I'll look forward to it.” And she,
our question there was, “When

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have you found unexpected courage?”
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“Sometimes getting out of bed
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I do life solo.”
She said, “I don't do life alone.

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I do life solo.” And, 
and then we shared this.

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We projected them for this community
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and afterwards,
this woman's name was Deb.

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The next day in the, in the dining
hall, Deb found me

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and she said, “I want to talk to you.”
And I thought, oh, no.

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You know, now she's self-conscious
or she's she's sorry

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that she participated
in this thing, but she said

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she said,
“After you projected that image,”

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she said, “there were a dozen people
that came up to me

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afterwards and said,
‘That's me too,’” right?

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Or, “’I've been married for 40 years,
and now my spouse has got

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a terminal diagnosis.

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How am I going to work through this?

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What can you what can you share with me?’”

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And she said it opened
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that would have never existed
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And that that to me is a perfect example

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of the reason
why we have to crack open a little bit

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and we have to share some of these
hard things because we don't find

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ridicule or scorn or isolation
when we share those vulnerable

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selves, parts of ourselves, what we find
is outreach and warmth and connection.

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And I think we we need to practice that

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in order to convince ourselves
that it's going to be okay.

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<v Jamison>I find

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in my own work too,
that some of these people

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are afraid to tell their story
and they need an outlet to do it,

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like the work they that you're doing
and that projection.

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And then seeing herself
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in that way
was kind of a self reflection for her.

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But like you said,
others came out to say, I'm

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I'm kind of lonely too, or I'm doing life
solo or my life's changing.

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And just think about the sub-community
that creates now around her.

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Have you heard from past participants?

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I'm thinking,
you know, those who took part years ago.

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Have you heard how this process
shifted their viewpoints and/or

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how they have chosen to interact
with others years later?

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<v Noltner>Yeah,

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I just had lunch
earlier this week with a man

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named Zafar Siddiqui, who I interviewed
in the first year of my project.

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And we've continued to stay in touch.

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And, you know, I hear often from people

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that that they've never had
the opportunity

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to articulate these sort of ideas before,
that it was the first time

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that they actually sat down
to have a conversation quite like this.

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You know,
and our our conversations are far ranging,

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like yours,
we do an hour long recorded oral history.

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And, you know, we ask, “What
does peace mean to you?

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How do you work towards it in your life?

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What are some of the obstacles
you encounter along the way?”

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But then, like you,
I like to go down the rabbit holes.

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So someone will drop a little hint
and I'm like, ooh,

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let's talk about that some more.

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Or what do you mean by that? And and so

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people

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wind up going down these paths
in their conversations

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that are a little bit cathartic,
a little bit

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clarifying, for me.

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Sometimes I,

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you know, “What does peace mean to you?”
That can be sort of a squishy question.

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And I kind of think I know what I mean
by that, but it's only when

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I have to articulate it out loud
that my thoughts take some concrete shape.

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And even then, when I say it out loud,
sometimes I go, ah, no,

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that's not quite right.
That's not what I mean.

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And then I have to turn it
and look at it again.

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And so I hear from people all the time

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that they, they experience
that sort of thing in the process.

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What I also hear a lot of times

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is people- When,
when I go into communities,

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I was just out in, in Corvallis, Oregon,
and we worked with a coalition of campus

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and community organizations
that came together to sponsor this

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and to make it effective
and to to invite people to participate.

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And what I heard when I was there is, oh,
we never really worked with this group

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before or that group before,
but now that we're talking,

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we see all sorts of common ground
and we see all sorts of opportunities

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for working together in the future,
some synergy and some common ground.

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And and so

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this connection
happens on the personal level,

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where people get to articulate
some of their deepest held beliefs,

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but it also happens in the communal level

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where we're seeding and incubating 
collaborations that can hopefully,

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they, you know, outlast my presence

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in a particular community.

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<v Jamison>As someone who also collects narratives,

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I believe to my core
that everyone has a story to tell.

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And I know you believe that too,

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but some stories stay with me
longer than others

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and have left an impact on me
in ways that I never imagined

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or shifted my own belief system, or,
you know, my own thought process

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around an issue or a topic.

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I'm thinking in particular, I was working
with a group of folks in Atlanta,

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Georgia, and there was a story
about a man who's now an adult.

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But when he was 15,

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he was kicked out of his house
and he was sold into sexual slavery.

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I mean, he basically

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became part of the sex industry,
and that was a survival mechanism.

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And then I think about another story
that we collected in Dayton,

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and from a bouncer
who survived a mass shooting,

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and how he recalled seeing the shooter
who had been killed by the police,

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and seeing him there
and having so much anger at him,

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but also realizing in that moment
that he was someone's kid

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and that he had died, and that there were
parents who likely loved him

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and were going through a different
kind of mourning process.

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And we never think about those things.

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And I'm not giving, right?

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Like, I'm not, apologizing

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for anybody who was doing like a mass
shooting or anything like that.

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But it changed my thinking about

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stories and how they impact us
in these different ways.

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But these stories can be heavy, right?

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Those kinds of stories are heavy.

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They're hard to hear, but
they're important to be told and shared.

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So I'm interested to know,
do you have any particular stories

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00:27:37.522 --> 00:27:40.792
that have stayed with you
and impacted you in different ways?

465
00:27:40.825 --> 00:27:43.795
Tell me more about that.

466
00:27:43.795 --> 00:27:44.195
<v Noltner>Yeah.

467
00:27:44.195 --> 00:27:46.164
There are so many.

468
00:27:46.164 --> 00:27:50.035
But like you,
there are a few that just sort of stick

469
00:27:50.035 --> 00:27:54.739
and and and one of them
is a man named Lee Bennett.

470
00:27:55.807 --> 00:27:57.542
In Charleston.

471
00:27:57.542 --> 00:27:59.477
And,

472
00:27:59.477 --> 00:28:02.647
this was in the last couple of years
as we were on the road full time.

473
00:28:02.781 --> 00:28:06.117
We were in Charleston,
and I really wanted to talk about some of

474
00:28:06.117 --> 00:28:10.588
the historic ramifications of slavery
and how race was impacting our world.

475
00:28:11.022 --> 00:28:14.025
And you, you remember, I'm sure,

476
00:28:14.092 --> 00:28:17.829
the story from 2015

477
00:28:18.163 --> 00:28:23.802
where a white supremacist
walked into a Bible study

478
00:28:24.035 --> 00:28:27.605
in Mother
Emanuel church, all Black church,

479
00:28:27.772 --> 00:28:30.675
and asked to be invited
into the Bible study.

480
00:28:30.675 --> 00:28:33.678
And he was invited
in, and he sat with the people for,

481
00:28:34.479 --> 00:28:38.049
for an hour
talking about the word of God.

482
00:28:38.049 --> 00:28:41.019
And at the end,
when everybody bowed their heads to pray,

483
00:28:41.019 --> 00:28:43.588
he pulled out a gun
and he shot and killed nine people.

484
00:28:44.556 --> 00:28:47.158
And when,

485
00:28:47.158 --> 00:28:50.395
when I was waiting for-
So Lee was going to meet me at the church

486
00:28:50.395 --> 00:28:55.233
so we could do the interview when I was-
I show up chronically early.

487
00:28:55.500 --> 00:28:57.869
It's just- [Laughter]
I don't know how that happened.

488
00:28:57.869 --> 00:28:59.571
<v Jamison>There's nothing wrong with that.

489
00:28:59.571 --> 00:29:00.739
<v Noltner>Yeah. Yeah. So.

490
00:29:00.739 --> 00:29:03.575
So I was waiting a couple of minutes
for Lee to show up at the,

491
00:29:03.575 --> 00:29:05.910
at the normal time, like normal people do.

492
00:29:05.910 --> 00:29:08.880
But I was standing
on the steps of the church:

493
00:29:08.980 --> 00:29:11.683
this middle aged white guy

494
00:29:11.683 --> 00:29:16.755
with bags of gear asking to be trusted
and allowed into that space.

495
00:29:16.788 --> 00:29:17.789
<v Jamison>Mhmm.

496
00:29:17.789 --> 00:29:22.861
<v Noltner>You know, just six years
after this, yeah, horrific thing happened.

497
00:29:23.027 --> 00:29:26.798
And again,
this wasn't a question that I led with

498
00:29:26.798 --> 00:29:31.870
because it was important that we spent
some time sort of building relationship

499
00:29:31.870 --> 00:29:35.640
and, and, and feeling each other out
in the conversation.

500
00:29:35.640 --> 00:29:38.710
But at a certain point,
I said, “Lee, how is it

501
00:29:38.710 --> 00:29:43.314
that a,” - Lee's a black guy
- and I said, “How is it that a person

502
00:29:43.314 --> 00:29:48.720
who looks like you can come
to trust a person who looks like me

503
00:29:49.320 --> 00:29:54.192
after having that trust violated
in such a horrific way?” And he said,

504
00:29:54.192 --> 00:29:59.063
“Well that's easy John.” He said, “This
isn't our house, this is the Lord's house.

505
00:29:59.063 --> 00:30:03.668
And we are here to serve and to welcome
and to love

506
00:30:03.668 --> 00:30:08.807
everybody who walks through the door.”
And he said, “We can't allow

507
00:30:09.340 --> 00:30:12.343
the horrific actions of one human being

508
00:30:12.343 --> 00:30:15.880
to change who we are
inside.” Jamison: Wow.

509
00:30:15.980 --> 00:30:19.651
<v Noltner>You know, and wherever you fall
on the faith spectrum, whatever

510
00:30:19.884 --> 00:30:22.854
you believe in, that world is immaterial.

511
00:30:22.854 --> 00:30:26.324
But the the,
the notion that that sort of grace

512
00:30:26.624 --> 00:30:31.563
and welcome and forgiveness
could be present in a space

513
00:30:31.863 --> 00:30:35.433
where such a horrible thing
happened, was really just

514
00:30:37.001 --> 00:30:40.004
profoundly moving to me

515
00:30:40.171 --> 00:30:43.174
and is a lesson that I try to carry out,

516
00:30:44.108 --> 00:30:46.377
you know, as I walk through my days.

517
00:30:46.377 --> 00:30:48.313
<v Jamison>That's an amazing story.

518
00:30:48.313 --> 00:30:50.582
And it does take time to build trust

519
00:30:50.582 --> 00:30:54.285
when you're asking people
to share their narratives with you.

520
00:30:54.285 --> 00:30:56.888
And that trust isn't always come easy.

521
00:30:56.888 --> 00:30:57.722
In that case,

522
00:30:57.722 --> 00:31:01.292
it sounds like you were a little more
nervous about maybe building that trust,

523
00:31:01.292 --> 00:31:04.729
but he was a little more forgiving around
it and was saying, I trust you.

524
00:31:04.729 --> 00:31:06.564
Come, come into the space.

525
00:31:06.564 --> 00:31:10.168
This is a space that everyone is welcome
for us to have these conversations.

526
00:31:10.435 --> 00:31:14.105
Have you been in a different kind of space
where you're wanting to build

527
00:31:14.105 --> 00:31:17.709
that trust, but there's kind of walls
that need to be broken down.

528
00:31:17.709 --> 00:31:18.910
What does that look like?

529
00:31:20.011 --> 00:31:22.547
<v Noltner>Yeah, I mean that that happens
a lot.

530
00:31:22.547 --> 00:31:26.251
Look, I'm
I'm the poster child of privilege.

531
00:31:26.417 --> 00:31:31.823
You know, if we're going to talk about
privilege, I’m a middle aged,

532
00:31:31.856 --> 00:31:37.328
white, cisgender, married, college
educated, you know, blah, blah, blah.

533
00:31:37.662 --> 00:31:41.366
And and many of the people

534
00:31:41.366 --> 00:31:45.236
who I, who I interviewed
don't share that same privilege.

535
00:31:45.236 --> 00:31:48.873
And it's really- Well,
a couple of things to say about that.

536
00:31:48.873 --> 00:31:52.176
It's really important to me
that I reduce my filter

537
00:31:52.176 --> 00:31:56.114
as much as possible
and that I amplify their voice.

538
00:31:56.314 --> 00:31:59.717
It's really important to me
that when they see the final project,

539
00:32:00.051 --> 00:32:03.121
they say, “Yeah,
that's what I was trying to say that day.

540
00:32:03.121 --> 00:32:06.124
Thanks for
thanks for giving me the space to do it.”

541
00:32:06.157 --> 00:32:09.027
But it's also really important to realize

542
00:32:09.027 --> 00:32:12.130
that there are a lot of communities

543
00:32:12.630 --> 00:32:15.166
where a mistrust

544
00:32:15.166 --> 00:32:18.870
of somebody who looks like me
is a natural byproduct

545
00:32:19.070 --> 00:32:22.273
of all of the difficult history
that we share in this country.

546
00:32:23.341 --> 00:32:25.576
And so that looks different ways,
you know,

547
00:32:25.576 --> 00:32:29.580
if if I'm working in
a, in an indigenous community,

548
00:32:29.914 --> 00:32:32.717
I went up and did a series
of water of stories

549
00:32:32.717 --> 00:32:36.087
about the water protectors
who were protesting the line

550
00:32:36.087 --> 00:32:39.090
three oil pipeline
going under the Mississippi River.

551
00:32:39.891 --> 00:32:42.994
I didn't bring out my camera
for the first three days,

552
00:32:43.361 --> 00:32:46.464
because I was just hanging out
at the camp with them and talking

553
00:32:46.464 --> 00:32:49.467
and getting to know
one another and trying to,

554
00:32:49.500 --> 00:32:54.105
trying to share some of my process
and hope that it resonated with them.

555
00:32:54.105 --> 00:32:54.739
And it did.

556
00:32:54.739 --> 00:32:57.875
And but then when you
when you have that trust,

557
00:32:57.875 --> 00:33:01.980
it becomes really important to honor it
and to make sure

558
00:33:01.980 --> 00:33:07.251
that you're using these stories fairly
and to make sure that you're, you're

559
00:33:07.251 --> 00:33:11.823
representing people in the way
that they would want to be represented.

560
00:33:12.223 --> 00:33:17.829
You know, and I've, I've done stories
with veterans who are working on

561
00:33:18.062 --> 00:33:21.632
PTSD and suicide prevention,
and I'm, I'm not a veteran.

562
00:33:21.833 --> 00:33:23.468
I'm this peace guy, right?

563
00:33:23.468 --> 00:33:29.507
And so, it takes some time to build
that connection to help us understand

564
00:33:29.507 --> 00:33:33.044
one another, because I probably have
some misconceptions about who they are,

565
00:33:33.344 --> 00:33:36.347
and they probably have some misconceptions
about who I am.

566
00:33:36.414 --> 00:33:39.484
And so if we can have some grace

567
00:33:40.451 --> 00:33:40.985
with that

568
00:33:40.985 --> 00:33:44.555
process, but continue
to show up with integrity

569
00:33:44.555 --> 00:33:49.027
and with authenticity and curiosity
to hear who they are,

570
00:33:49.460 --> 00:33:53.364
that, you know, this is
this is a part of the process and it can't

571
00:33:53.698 --> 00:33:56.701
it can't be rushed and it can't be faked.

572
00:33:57.402 --> 00:34:01.005
You know, it’s, it's rooted in honest

573
00:34:01.005 --> 00:34:05.643
human compassion and and and curiosity,
a desire to learn more.

574
00:34:05.910 --> 00:34:09.847
<v Jamison>On the other
end of that spectrum, have you ever gone

575
00:34:09.847 --> 00:34:13.384
into a community to build that trust,
and it just never,

576
00:34:13.818 --> 00:34:17.121
it just never got there,
or they decided through the process

577
00:34:17.121 --> 00:34:21.092
that they didn't want to be photographed
or share their narratives in that way?

578
00:34:21.092 --> 00:34:24.095
Have you experienced that in your years
of doing the work?

579
00:34:24.962 --> 00:34:27.999
<v Noltner>Yeah, yeah,
maybe not in a in a community per se,

580
00:34:27.999 --> 00:34:33.504
but I was I was down along the border, 
doing stories around immigration.

581
00:34:33.871 --> 00:34:37.141
And when I do that,

582
00:34:37.141 --> 00:34:41.212
I try to line up interviews
with, you know,

583
00:34:41.345 --> 00:34:44.282
asylum seekers and activists,

584
00:34:44.282 --> 00:34:49.387
but also with ranchers
and Border Patrol agents.

585
00:34:49.654 --> 00:34:52.457
And we were camped in a

586
00:34:52.457 --> 00:34:55.460
in a campground near Bisbee, Arizona.

587
00:34:55.593 --> 00:34:58.262
A lot of the people in that campground
were people

588
00:34:58.262 --> 00:35:03.067
who were construction workers
who were working on building the wall.

589
00:35:03.201 --> 00:35:07.972
This is in January of 2021.

590
00:35:08.673 --> 00:35:11.976
So, the Trump administration
was actively building

591
00:35:13.244 --> 00:35:15.079
parts of the wall.

592
00:35:15.079 --> 00:35:18.082
We happened to be there when

593
00:35:18.883 --> 00:35:21.486
Biden

594
00:35:21.486 --> 00:35:25.056
took over and his administration
stopped construction of the wall.

595
00:35:25.256 --> 00:35:28.359
So those people, in particular,
there was one man

596
00:35:28.493 --> 00:35:31.395
who was camped near us
who was from Minnesota.

597
00:35:31.395 --> 00:35:33.331
I'm from Minnesota.
He saw my license plate.

598
00:35:33.331 --> 00:35:37.835
We had started talking,
and I explained to him

599
00:35:37.835 --> 00:35:41.506
what I did, and,
he had just been laid off.

600
00:35:41.539 --> 00:35:45.309
He had just moved his family down to
Arizona to work construction on the wall.

601
00:35:45.476 --> 00:35:48.646
They were living in an RV,
and then construction stopped.

602
00:35:48.880 --> 00:35:51.716
So he was in a really bad spot.

603
00:35:51.716 --> 00:35:54.919
He was trying to figure out
how he was going to support his family.

604
00:35:54.919 --> 00:35:56.320
And he literally said to me,

605
00:35:56.320 --> 00:35:59.323
“I suppose I could go back up to Minnesota
and work on that pipeline,

606
00:35:59.457 --> 00:36:01.225
but they're probably
going to shut that down too.”

607
00:36:02.393 --> 00:36:02.760
You know,

608
00:36:02.760 --> 00:36:05.830
so he
and I probably voted for different people.

609
00:36:06.130 --> 00:36:10.234
He and I probably had different
understandings of, of

610
00:36:10.234 --> 00:36:11.702
you know, political issues.

611
00:36:11.702 --> 00:36:15.139
But I said to him, “Here,
I'm working on this project,

612
00:36:15.139 --> 00:36:17.074
I would really love
to have your voice in it.

613
00:36:17.074 --> 00:36:18.409
I think it's an important part

614
00:36:18.409 --> 00:36:22.380
of the conversation because now
you're in a bind for your family.

615
00:36:22.380 --> 00:36:26.751
I get that, and I would love to hear more
about what this means to you.”

616
00:36:27.785 --> 00:36:32.490
But I'm I'm sure he was in such, 
such a state of concern.

617
00:36:32.523 --> 00:36:36.861
He was he was in sort of this moment
of economic crisis for his family.

618
00:36:37.128 --> 00:36:39.096
He just wanted nothing to do with it.

619
00:36:39.096 --> 00:36:43.167
So there are times
that I've been rejected.

620
00:36:43.534 --> 00:36:47.572
There are times, I mean, people hear
a project that has the word “peace” in it,

621
00:36:47.572 --> 00:36:49.674
and they make certain assumptions
that it's this,

622
00:36:49.674 --> 00:36:53.244
you know, left wing hippie wacko thing.

623
00:36:53.644 --> 00:36:56.347
I hope that they spend time

624
00:36:56.347 --> 00:37:01.986
with my project, that they'll understand
that it is rooted in listening to people

625
00:37:02.353 --> 00:37:06.524
who have experiences different from mine,
that have experiences different

626
00:37:06.524 --> 00:37:07.558
from yours.

627
00:37:07.558 --> 00:37:10.528
And, but sometimes that

628
00:37:10.528 --> 00:37:14.131
initial perception
can be hard to get through.

629
00:37:14.432 --> 00:37:18.102
And I suspect in his case,
there was just too much going on

630
00:37:18.402 --> 00:37:21.639
for him to really even be interested

631
00:37:21.639 --> 00:37:24.642
in getting over that hurdle right then.

632
00:37:24.875 --> 00:37:28.412
<v Jamison>And those kind of stories,
and stories like we talked about earlier

633
00:37:28.412 --> 00:37:31.515
that are hard to hear,
stay with us, right?

634
00:37:31.515 --> 00:37:32.650
As storytellers,

635
00:37:32.650 --> 00:37:34.752
we don't just walk away
from those experiences

636
00:37:34.752 --> 00:37:37.855
and think, oh, here's this great thing
I'm going to put up on my website

637
00:37:37.855 --> 00:37:40.891
or share out right through books or create
community conversations.

638
00:37:40.891 --> 00:37:45.029
They stay with us
and we remember them years later.

639
00:37:45.029 --> 00:37:50.301
And sometimes they can be hard
on our own mental health in some ways.

640
00:37:50.501 --> 00:37:53.504
What advice do you have for
other storytellers

641
00:37:53.504 --> 00:37:57.275
on maintaining their own mental health,
while collecting and sharing stories that

642
00:37:57.275 --> 00:37:58.776
are sometimes hard to hear?

643
00:38:01.012 --> 00:38:02.647
<v Noltner>Yeah, that's a great question.

644
00:38:02.647 --> 00:38:07.451
I think if you do this work well,

645
00:38:08.853 --> 00:38:11.455
if you do it the way it should be done,

646
00:38:11.455 --> 00:38:15.426
you're going to carry
some of that weight with you.

647
00:38:16.227 --> 00:38:17.895
You know, it does come at a cost.

648
00:38:17.895 --> 00:38:20.464
I have a friend, another storyteller.

649
00:38:20.464 --> 00:38:24.035
And, and and great journalist,
Barry Yeoman.

650
00:38:24.435 --> 00:38:27.438
And and Barry

651
00:38:27.705 --> 00:38:29.807
said that

652
00:38:29.807 --> 00:38:33.811
psychologist used to talk
about this notion of second hand trauma,

653
00:38:34.312 --> 00:38:37.048
that if you are in the presence of people

654
00:38:37.048 --> 00:38:40.785
who have experienced that sort of trauma,
that you carry some of that with you,

655
00:38:40.785 --> 00:38:46.324
but increasingly they're just calling it
trauma, you know, no second hand about it.

656
00:38:46.324 --> 00:38:51.062
Then you you experience that the way,
not the way.

657
00:38:51.295 --> 00:38:55.199
But, you some of that transfers to you.

658
00:38:55.232 --> 00:38:55.933
And I think,

659
00:38:57.268 --> 00:38:57.902
I think it is

660
00:38:57.902 --> 00:39:00.905
okay to have our hearts broken.

661
00:39:01.072 --> 00:39:05.009
I think it's okay to encounter weight
and to feel that.

662
00:39:05.009 --> 00:39:09.213
In fact, in fact, I think that's-
when your heart is broken like that,

663
00:39:09.213 --> 00:39:13.918
I think those cracks are where
the compassion and the light can seep in.

664
00:39:14.685 --> 00:39:18.022
But yeah,
you need to be a little cautious.

665
00:39:18.022 --> 00:39:20.925
You need to also do some self-care.

666
00:39:20.925 --> 00:39:26.497
You have to figure out what it is
that will sustain you.

667
00:39:27.431 --> 00:39:29.867
And for me, it's it's music

668
00:39:29.867 --> 00:39:33.437
and it's it's, hiking in the outdoors.

669
00:39:33.437 --> 00:39:37.108
And so as we were traveling, gathering
these stories, we'd

670
00:39:37.708 --> 00:39:39.977
do a bunch of interviews

671
00:39:39.977 --> 00:39:43.381
and then take a break
and go to some beautiful place.

672
00:39:43.381 --> 00:39:46.417
And I would do my editing and do,
do sunrise

673
00:39:46.417 --> 00:39:49.420
walks, through this gorgeous landscape.

674
00:39:49.687 --> 00:39:53.591
But you need to pay attention to yourself

675
00:39:53.591 --> 00:39:58.295
and your body and be able to respond
and and do that self-care.

676
00:39:58.295 --> 00:40:00.231
If you're going to be able
to sustain the work.

677
00:40:00.231 --> 00:40:03.968
For me, 
especially as we were on the road,

678
00:40:03.968 --> 00:40:07.338
I started feeling a lot of weight.

679
00:40:07.338 --> 00:40:08.973
And it, I was-

680
00:40:10.207 --> 00:40:10.741
I've always

681
00:40:10.741 --> 00:40:13.711
enjoyed beer and wine and and whiskey.

682
00:40:13.978 --> 00:40:17.782
I think I was starting to enjoy it
a little more than I should.

683
00:40:18.149 --> 00:40:21.452
And in fact,
the better way to say that is

684
00:40:21.452 --> 00:40:25.156
I started to not enjoy it,
but still use it as a crutch.

685
00:40:25.423 --> 00:40:28.793
And so I decided I needed to stop.

686
00:40:29.460 --> 00:40:31.962
You know, so a year and a half ago,
I just sort of drew the line

687
00:40:31.962 --> 00:40:34.965
and said, “This,
this isn't good for me anymore.”

688
00:40:34.965 --> 00:40:38.936
My sense of self-care was that
I had to quit.

689
00:40:39.170 --> 00:40:42.840
And it's, 
it was the right choice for me.

690
00:40:44.375 --> 00:40:47.011
You know, in a world
where we can't control a lot of things,

691
00:40:47.011 --> 00:40:49.747
that was one of the things
I could control.

692
00:40:49.747 --> 00:40:54.985
And so in that spirit of self-care, 
and finding more healthy ways

693
00:40:54.985 --> 00:40:58.088
to navigate some of that weight,
I set that one aside.

694
00:40:58.355 --> 00:40:58.956
<v Jamison>Congratulations.

695
00:40:58.956 --> 00:41:00.591
<v Noltner>I think it's all- Yeah.

696
00:41:00.591 --> 00:41:01.091
Thanks.

697
00:41:01.091 --> 00:41:04.795
I appreciate that. And it, you know, it,

698
00:41:06.030 --> 00:41:07.465
I thought

699
00:41:07.465 --> 00:41:10.000
a few months back, I thought
maybe I'll just have a glass of wine,

700
00:41:10.000 --> 00:41:12.470
see how that feels. And I'm like, nope.

701
00:41:12.470 --> 00:41:14.271
I think this is the better answer for me.

702
00:41:14.271 --> 00:41:15.105
I don't need that.

703
00:41:15.105 --> 00:41:20.578
So it, I mean, people, people
find their own way to,

704
00:41:21.278 --> 00:41:25.182
to carry weight,
but it's important to pay attention

705
00:41:25.182 --> 00:41:28.652
to yourself so that you're, you're
taking care of yourself in the process.

706
00:41:30.321 --> 00:41:32.423
<v Jamison>I find for myself

707
00:41:32.423 --> 00:41:35.793
too, you talked about hiking
and being in nature.

708
00:41:35.793 --> 00:41:40.865
I found that I find that to be an outlet
for me as well, to clear my mind,

709
00:41:41.298 --> 00:41:45.769
but also to discover while I'm out walking
just how connected

710
00:41:45.769 --> 00:41:51.008
we are with the world, with the universe,
with, nature.

711
00:41:51.008 --> 00:41:54.245
And those small reminders

712
00:41:55.212 --> 00:41:55.846
keep me

713
00:41:55.846 --> 00:41:58.949
going and, and help me feel centered.

714
00:41:58.949 --> 00:42:03.554
And so I often say to people too, I think
even if you don't consider yourself

715
00:42:03.554 --> 00:42:08.425
a hiker or a runner or a walker,
like do what you can to get outdoors

716
00:42:08.692 --> 00:42:13.531
to just clear your mind and be in nature
and find that interconnectedness

717
00:42:13.531 --> 00:42:17.101
that continues
to push us forward to do this work.

718
00:42:17.434 --> 00:42:19.870
Because if we're just staying inside
all the time, it's

719
00:42:19.870 --> 00:42:23.073
that is a whole different impact

720
00:42:23.073 --> 00:42:26.076
on our on our mind and our mental health.

721
00:42:26.076 --> 00:42:26.510
<v Noltner>Man, it's

722
00:42:26.510 --> 00:42:30.214
easy to get sucked into the screen
in this world that we live in.

723
00:42:30.281 --> 00:42:34.885
But I love to be outside and feel small,

724
00:42:34.919 --> 00:42:38.756
you know, whether that's
whether that's, you know, standing next to

725
00:42:39.323 --> 00:42:41.759
the sea and some pounding surf or

726
00:42:41.759 --> 00:42:45.563
or standing in, in, in the desert, or, we,

727
00:42:45.563 --> 00:42:48.933
my wife and I, also have a Christmas tree
farm in western Wisconsin.

728
00:42:49.500 --> 00:42:53.370
And so just to be out there
where there's nothing but big Sky,

729
00:42:53.771 --> 00:43:00.144
and an open space, feeling
small like that is, is part of recharging.

730
00:43:00.144 --> 00:43:04.315
It puts things in a perspective
that I sometimes lose in the day to day.

731
00:43:06.750 --> 00:43:07.518
<v Jamison>You've been on

732
00:43:07.518 --> 00:43:10.821
the road now for 15 years,

733
00:43:10.821 --> 00:43:17.094
but you did have a home in Indianapolis
but you gave that up.

734
00:43:17.094 --> 00:43:19.630
So in the fall of 2020
I think it was, right?

735
00:43:19.630 --> 00:43:21.732
You and your wife sold your house.

736
00:43:21.732 --> 00:43:25.803
You took your storytelling method
to a different level.

737
00:43:26.070 --> 00:43:27.504
You bought a travel trailer

738
00:43:27.504 --> 00:43:31.075
and then you began to dedicate
more time to the road and finding stories.

739
00:43:31.442 --> 00:43:34.578
What have you learned about yourself
these past few years on the road?

740
00:43:36.280 --> 00:43:40.150
<v Noltner>Yeah, we set out
in the fall of 2020, like you said.

741
00:43:40.150 --> 00:43:41.719
Sold our house, bought an RV.

742
00:43:41.719 --> 00:43:47.858
We started in a 34ft travel trailer
that we pulled with, with a pickup truck.

743
00:43:47.858 --> 00:43:49.893
That felt like a significant downsize.

744
00:43:49.893 --> 00:43:53.797
But then halfway through the journey,
that trailer frame broke

745
00:43:53.797 --> 00:43:58.802
and we downsized further into a van
who we named Vinnie, Vinnie Van Gogh.

746
00:43:59.169 --> 00:43:59.870
Mildly dorky.

747
00:43:59.870 --> 00:44:02.306
<v Jamison>[Laughter] No, that’s fun.

748
00:44:02.306 --> 00:44:05.342
<v Noltner>Somebody said the other day,
“That's the appropriate level of dorky.”

749
00:44:05.609 --> 00:44:08.812
But, you know, so.

750
00:44:08.812 --> 00:44:13.817
So it was this process
of letting go of a lot of material things.

751
00:44:13.817 --> 00:44:16.820
And I think along the way, we

752
00:44:16.920 --> 00:44:19.923
we learned that we can live small.

753
00:44:20.224 --> 00:44:24.828
We learned that
we loved to be close to nature.

754
00:44:25.262 --> 00:44:30.167
You know, you live in a 82 square foot
van, and that pushes you outside more.

755
00:44:30.601 --> 00:44:33.570
You know, we we became- someone once

756
00:44:33.570 --> 00:44:36.607
describe this as,

757
00:44:36.607 --> 00:44:41.278
not wanting to be an indoor creature
who goes outside sometimes,

758
00:44:41.278 --> 00:44:45.049
but to be an outdoor creature
who sometimes goes in.

759
00:44:45.516 --> 00:44:48.152
And so the van pushed us out.

760
00:44:48.152 --> 00:44:50.521
And so we were
out in the world more often.

761
00:44:51.555 --> 00:44:52.156
So we love

762
00:44:52.156 --> 00:44:55.459
to be close to nature,
but we also love to be close to

763
00:44:55.926 --> 00:44:59.463
the issues of the day,
to be in proximity.

764
00:44:59.463 --> 00:45:04.134
I mean, our methodology,
really, was to go to these pain points

765
00:45:04.301 --> 00:45:07.671
in the country to go to the border
to talk about immigration; to go

766
00:45:08.439 --> 00:45:11.208
to Mississippi to talk about moving
Confederate monuments;

767
00:45:11.208 --> 00:45:15.713
to go to the mouth of the Mississippi
to talk about land loss

768
00:45:15.913 --> 00:45:19.450
and environmental issues;
and to be in proximity

769
00:45:19.983 --> 00:45:23.754
to the issues and the people
who are being directly impacted.

770
00:45:24.455 --> 00:45:29.927
And when you get that close to things
and to people, you, you start to see them

771
00:45:29.927 --> 00:45:35.199
in new ways, in, in more complicated ways
than what we see presented in,

772
00:45:35.566 --> 00:45:38.802
you know, the, the, the nightly news
or in the headlines.

773
00:45:39.002 --> 00:45:42.973
So I learned those things,
and I also learned

774
00:45:42.973 --> 00:45:46.777
that I need to stay curious
about the world.

775
00:45:46.977 --> 00:45:49.980
I learned really,
how much I have to learn.

776
00:45:50.280 --> 00:45:55.886
And so my, my, my,
my model of encountering people was rooted

777
00:45:55.886 --> 00:45:59.656
in the belief that I would come away
from that conversation

778
00:45:59.957 --> 00:46:02.126
learning something more about the world.

779
00:46:02.126 --> 00:46:05.429
I didn't enter the conversation to tell
them everything I knew about the world.

780
00:46:05.696 --> 00:46:09.800
I entered to see
if they could expand my view a little bit.

781
00:46:09.833 --> 00:46:12.836
And when you approach the world that way

782
00:46:13.604 --> 00:46:18.308
with curiosity and a willingness to listen
and the patience

783
00:46:18.308 --> 00:46:23.280
to keep showing up, it,
it it's a whole different approach.

784
00:46:23.280 --> 00:46:26.283
And I learned that it's,

785
00:46:26.617 --> 00:46:29.686
you know,
it's an approach that works for me. I, I

786
00:46:32.589 --> 00:46:34.458
I've always known this as a photographer,

787
00:46:34.458 --> 00:46:37.728
but this convinced me
even more that there's beauty and wisdom

788
00:46:38.295 --> 00:46:40.998
that's that's all around us
if we take the time to see it.

789
00:46:40.998 --> 00:46:42.900
And if we take the time to hear it.

790
00:46:42.900 --> 00:46:43.200
You know,

791
00:46:43.200 --> 00:46:46.837
you could turn on the news and believe
that we're falling apart at the seams.

792
00:46:47.104 --> 00:46:51.275
But I'll tell you that everywhere we went,
we met kind people

793
00:46:51.942 --> 00:46:55.879
and generous people who took good
care of us and opened up to us.

794
00:46:56.146 --> 00:47:00.150
And, man, for me, to turn off that TV

795
00:47:00.150 --> 00:47:03.720
and just go out into the world, is a win.

796
00:47:04.254 --> 00:47:05.255
<v Jamison>Yeah.

797
00:47:05.255 --> 00:47:08.792
This might be kind of a personal question,
and if you don't want to answer it,

798
00:47:08.792 --> 00:47:09.560
you don't have to.

799
00:47:09.560 --> 00:47:14.431
But how did you, how did your wife respond
when you said, “Let's hit

800
00:47:14.431 --> 00:47:18.001
the road, let's sell our house
and let's hit the road?” Or was it

801
00:47:18.001 --> 00:47:21.672
a mutual decision, or, tell, yeah,
tell a little bit about that process.

802
00:47:21.672 --> 00:47:22.339
How did that work?

803
00:47:23.440 --> 00:47:26.109
<v Noltner>[Laughs] I will begin by saying
it was Karen's idea.

804
00:47:26.109 --> 00:47:28.645
<v Jamison>Oh, wow. That's awesome. Noltner:
Yeah.

805
00:47:28.645 --> 00:47:33.450
People think that I, I forced Karen
to do that, [laughter] but in fact,

806
00:47:33.450 --> 00:47:37.321
it only took me a moment to say yes
when she suggested it.

807
00:47:37.321 --> 00:47:42.626
But, 
so for A Peace of My Mind with my exhibits

808
00:47:42.626 --> 00:47:47.631
and my programing and my lectures,
you know, I was traveling a lot.

809
00:47:47.731 --> 00:47:50.701
Our kids were grown.

810
00:47:51.368 --> 00:47:56.240
I think in 2019, before the pandemic,
I was on the road 180 days.

811
00:47:56.240 --> 00:47:57.941
So really half of the year.

812
00:47:57.941 --> 00:48:00.844
And we,
I mean, Karen and I like each other.

813
00:48:00.844 --> 00:48:04.114
We want, we wanted to spend
a little more time together.

814
00:48:04.114 --> 00:48:07.351
This was not ideal
and not the reason why we got married.

815
00:48:07.351 --> 00:48:10.921
And as it turns out,
she couldn't quit her job.

816
00:48:11.221 --> 00:48:15.359
And then we would buy her own health
insurance and we would maintain a home

817
00:48:15.559 --> 00:48:16.827
while we went out on the road.

818
00:48:16.827 --> 00:48:20.364
We could do two of those things, but
we couldn't do all three of those things.

819
00:48:20.364 --> 00:48:23.400
And so the house- We were sort of done
raising our kids.

820
00:48:23.400 --> 00:48:26.103
We weren't in love with mowing the lawn.

821
00:48:26.103 --> 00:48:28.939
And so the house was an
easy one to let go.

822
00:48:28.939 --> 00:48:29.673
It was-

823
00:48:30.841 --> 00:48:32.743
We wanted something else in our life
anyway.

824
00:48:32.743 --> 00:48:36.513
But she said, you know, if I quit my job,
we can buy our own health insurance,

825
00:48:36.513 --> 00:48:39.650
we can sell the house, and we can be
together on the road for this thing.

826
00:48:39.883 --> 00:48:41.852
It was also the pandemic.

827
00:48:41.852 --> 00:48:45.689
All of my, 
all of my programing shut down.

828
00:48:46.023 --> 00:48:48.992
So we were trying to figure out
what to do with that time

829
00:48:49.293 --> 00:48:52.930
and realized that I could still do
new interviews on the road.

830
00:48:53.563 --> 00:48:57.734
So, Karen will tell you
it was John and Karen's journey,

831
00:48:58.035 --> 00:49:02.039
and it's John's project, so
she was not coming along on the interview.

832
00:49:02.039 --> 00:49:05.208
She was doing some,
some virtual assistant work

833
00:49:05.208 --> 00:49:08.211
for, for some other people
helping with some marketing.

834
00:49:08.211 --> 00:49:11.315
And when I would go do the interviews,
she would be doing her work.

835
00:49:11.315 --> 00:49:14.718
But then at the end of the day,
we'd be able to go explore together.

836
00:49:14.952 --> 00:49:19.022
So it was it was a very easy process.

837
00:49:19.022 --> 00:49:23.226
We both arrived at the decision together.

838
00:49:23.560 --> 00:49:27.664
When the trailer broke, it was Karen's
idea to downsize into a van.

839
00:49:27.664 --> 00:49:30.667
I was a little skeptical,
but she was right again.

840
00:49:30.867 --> 00:49:35.639
And after driving 93,000 miles,

841
00:49:35.872 --> 00:49:39.076
in 900 days,

842
00:49:39.076 --> 00:49:42.746
across the country,
one of her biggest concerns is, “What

843
00:49:42.746 --> 00:49:47.784
if we decide that this is done
at different times?

844
00:49:47.784 --> 00:49:52.255
What if one person is sick of this
and the other person is still loving it?”

845
00:49:52.255 --> 00:49:55.826
But together we sort of, we sort of

846
00:49:56.426 --> 00:49:58.562
came to that conclusion
at the same time we,

847
00:49:58.562 --> 00:50:01.965
we sort of said, “Okay,
I think we did this.” Not that we have

848
00:50:01.965 --> 00:50:05.635
exhausted every conversation and issue
that is around the country.

849
00:50:06.003 --> 00:50:09.840
You know, you could sit at the border
and never exhaust

850
00:50:09.840 --> 00:50:13.410
the human stories
around the issue of immigration.

851
00:50:13.643 --> 00:50:18.882
But we had felt like we we experienced it
and we created a body of work.

852
00:50:18.882 --> 00:50:22.319
And it was it was time to come back
home and be in community.

853
00:50:22.686 --> 00:50:25.188
And we arrived
at that one together as well.

854
00:50:25.188 --> 00:50:28.158
So I think we were pretty fortunate
in that regard.

855
00:50:28.158 --> 00:50:30.027
<v Jamison>Your latest book,

856
00:50:30.027 --> 00:50:34.164
Lessons On the Road to Peace, follows
those past few years on the road.

857
00:50:34.164 --> 00:50:37.334
And it opens with the killing of George
Floyd in Minneapolis

858
00:50:37.334 --> 00:50:41.371
and the acknowledgment that it happened
only 11 miles from your then home.

859
00:50:41.872 --> 00:50:43.607
And of course, ultimately
you and your wife Karen,

860
00:50:43.607 --> 00:50:46.376
selling your home and hitting the road
like we just talked about.

861
00:50:46.376 --> 00:50:50.080
Take me back to those moments,
and how did it shift you- shift

862
00:50:50.080 --> 00:50:53.383
how you tell stories
and ultimately the curation of the book?

863
00:50:54.651 --> 00:50:55.685
<v Noltner>Yeah, yeah.

864
00:50:55.685 --> 00:51:00.424
So, you know, it was the pandemic
and we were trying to do what we could do

865
00:51:00.424 --> 00:51:05.162
to socially distance and isolate
the way we were supposed to do.

866
00:51:05.695 --> 00:51:09.266
And I didn't

867
00:51:09.266 --> 00:51:14.938
hear about George Floyd
being killed on the first day,

868
00:51:15.138 --> 00:51:18.141
because I had sort of shut off the news.

869
00:51:18.175 --> 00:51:21.812
I was trying to figure out
what to do with my, my

870
00:51:23.580 --> 00:51:26.583
creative worth, my creative self,

871
00:51:27.384 --> 00:51:31.121
how to keep doing A Peace of My Mind
in this sort of storytelling,

872
00:51:31.121 --> 00:51:34.925
in this new world where it was,
where I couldn't do it the way I used to.

873
00:51:36.760 --> 00:51:39.763
But then when I found out,

874
00:51:40.230 --> 00:51:43.400
about the news, I knew

875
00:51:44.167 --> 00:51:47.671
if A Peace of My Mind was rooted
in hearing other people's stories,

876
00:51:48.004 --> 00:51:53.677
I knew if it was 
a part of trying to be a better ally

877
00:51:53.677 --> 00:51:56.546
and to hear different ways
of seeing the world,

878
00:51:56.546 --> 00:51:59.616
I knew that I would have to go
to that intersection in some fashion.

879
00:51:59.616 --> 00:52:03.153
So, every day for that first week,

880
00:52:03.386 --> 00:52:08.525
I brought a small studio kit down
to that intersection of 38th and Chicago

881
00:52:08.792 --> 00:52:13.330
and just asked people, “What
do you want to say?” you know,

882
00:52:13.330 --> 00:52:17.968
and was really just there for listening,
and not everybody wanted to talk.

883
00:52:18.268 --> 00:52:19.536
Some people were, were

884
00:52:20.670 --> 00:52:22.839
frustrated and angry and

885
00:52:22.839 --> 00:52:26.643
mourning and grieving,
and some privately and some publicly.

886
00:52:26.643 --> 00:52:30.313
But, but over the course of that week,
there were 50 people

887
00:52:30.313 --> 00:52:31.648
who did want to share a story.

888
00:52:31.648 --> 00:52:35.018
And it was important,
I thought, to be able to listen

889
00:52:35.318 --> 00:52:38.622
and to be able to reflect it
back to the community.

890
00:52:40.056 --> 00:52:43.326
Because it was the pandemic,
normally I would just have clipboards

891
00:52:43.326 --> 00:52:46.329
and pens and people
would write their answer on the thing.

892
00:52:46.329 --> 00:52:48.265
Didn't want to do that with the pandemic.

893
00:52:48.265 --> 00:52:51.801
So I had a little QR code
people could scan with their phone

894
00:52:51.801 --> 00:52:55.572
and they could enter their story online,
and we could stay

895
00:52:55.572 --> 00:52:59.442
socially distanced and people could keep
their masks on if they wanted.

896
00:52:59.442 --> 00:53:01.211
Some people took them off.

897
00:53:01.211 --> 00:53:07.217
Got to the end of that process
and realized that there was still a way

898
00:53:07.217 --> 00:53:11.421
to gather new stories,
even in the midst of a pandemic.

899
00:53:11.788 --> 00:53:16.259
You know, maybe we could go on the road
and I could set up my microphones outside

900
00:53:16.560 --> 00:53:20.430
and we could, you know, sit 15ft apart
and we could record stories and,

901
00:53:21.031 --> 00:53:24.467
yeah, maybe there'd be some background
environmental noise.

902
00:53:24.467 --> 00:53:25.635
But so what?

903
00:53:25.635 --> 00:53:28.705
And we could still do that, that process.

904
00:53:28.705 --> 00:53:31.708
And so, when you ask what I learned,

905
00:53:32.008 --> 00:53:35.111
I guess I learned that

906
00:53:35.111 --> 00:53:38.114
there was still a creative
way to go forward,

907
00:53:38.582 --> 00:53:41.484
even though the world
seemed to have shifted around us.

908
00:53:41.484 --> 00:53:44.788
I learned, to be willing to be bold.

909
00:53:45.455 --> 00:53:48.124
To- I had always felt sort of bold.

910
00:53:48.124 --> 00:53:52.696
But now, after being at that intersection
and hearing the

911
00:53:53.029 --> 00:53:59.636
the urgency of some of those stories,
there was a new sense of being bold

912
00:53:59.636 --> 00:54:03.540
and a willingness
to go into these difficult places

913
00:54:03.807 --> 00:54:07.110
to, you know, we set up a studio
at the base of a Confederate monument

914
00:54:07.110 --> 00:54:10.247
in Oxford, Mississippi, and ask people,
“What does this statue mean to you?”

915
00:54:12.482 --> 00:54:13.950
As a part of listening,

916
00:54:13.950 --> 00:54:16.920
we went to Skid Row
to talk about housing security,

917
00:54:17.554 --> 00:54:20.757
where there are,
you know, 5 to 8000 people

918
00:54:20.757 --> 00:54:23.760
who are unhoused in a 50 square block
area.

919
00:54:23.827 --> 00:54:28.832
To, to be willing
to walk into those spaces and find people

920
00:54:28.832 --> 00:54:33.303
who are looking for creative solutions
to these really difficult issues

921
00:54:33.303 --> 00:54:36.306
and believe that something better
is possible.

922
00:54:37.607 --> 00:54:40.644
<v Jamison>Toward the end of the book,
you share the questions

923
00:54:40.644 --> 00:54:43.680
that you've asked participants,
and I'm not going to read them all here.

924
00:54:43.680 --> 00:54:45.448
People need to get a copy of your book,
right?

925
00:54:45.448 --> 00:54:47.450
<v Noltner>Yeah, they got to get the book
if they want that, right?

926
00:54:47.450 --> 00:54:49.619
<v Jamison>To,
to to see what those questions are.

927
00:54:49.619 --> 00:54:52.622
But I do want to ask you
one of those questions.

928
00:54:52.722 --> 00:54:53.590
What gives you hope?

929
00:54:58.728 --> 00:55:00.363
<v Noltner>What gives me hope

930
00:55:00.363 --> 00:55:04.367
is people who choose

931
00:55:05.168 --> 00:55:08.672
connection and healing in their life

932
00:55:09.606 --> 00:55:12.609
in the midst of difficult situations.

933
00:55:12.876 --> 00:55:15.445
What gives me hope is,

934
00:55:15.445 --> 00:55:18.448
people who choose love

935
00:55:18.481 --> 00:55:21.484
when hate would come easily,

936
00:55:23.353 --> 00:55:25.355
people who take their own

937
00:55:25.355 --> 00:55:28.358
struggles in life and

938
00:55:29.092 --> 00:55:33.063
find a way through it
but go one step further

939
00:55:33.063 --> 00:55:36.933
and use that experience to shine
a light for others

940
00:55:36.933 --> 00:55:40.704
behind them on the path,
so that they can find a way through too.

941
00:55:41.338 --> 00:55:43.873
And these, I mean, these are my people.

942
00:55:43.873 --> 00:55:46.443
These are the folks
that I gravitate towards.

943
00:55:46.443 --> 00:55:50.313
I don't care
when I'm interviewing people, I don't care

944
00:55:50.313 --> 00:55:53.950
politics, I don't care faith, I don't care
gender, class, whatever.

945
00:55:54.517 --> 00:55:57.520
I care about,

946
00:55:58.621 --> 00:55:59.356
I care about

947
00:55:59.356 --> 00:56:03.760
finding people who, instead of focusing on
why things are hard,

948
00:56:04.294 --> 00:56:07.597
I'm not afraid of looking at
why things are hard, but I also want to

949
00:56:07.597 --> 00:56:10.767
look at how things are possible.

950
00:56:11.501 --> 00:56:11.735
Yeah.

951
00:56:11.735 --> 00:56:15.105
So let's honestly reckon
with and face and address the

952
00:56:15.138 --> 00:56:17.574
the very real challenges
that we're facing.

953
00:56:17.574 --> 00:56:21.511
But but can we find a way
to approach those challenges

954
00:56:21.511 --> 00:56:25.749
with a grace and a hope and a belief
that something better is possible?

955
00:56:25.982 --> 00:56:29.085
When I'm in that space,
that's what gives me hope.

956
00:56:29.386 --> 00:56:33.089
<v Jamison>That's a really beautiful
testament to the stories

957
00:56:33.089 --> 00:56:36.459
and the work that you've done
these last 15 years.

958
00:56:36.826 --> 00:56:40.263
What's next on your- Noltner: And let me,
let me just jump in and say to that, that

959
00:56:40.330 --> 00:56:44.734
in certain ways this is like super greedy
and super self-serving

960
00:56:44.734 --> 00:56:50.039
because when I'm interviewing people like
that, that feeds me, that sustains me.

961
00:56:50.039 --> 00:56:55.678
And when I feel frustrated
or a little hopeless in the world,

962
00:56:56.112 --> 00:56:59.816
I, I go out and I do another interview

963
00:56:59.816 --> 00:57:02.018
with someone like this,
and that's what keeps me going.

964
00:57:03.153 --> 00:57:06.156
So if it sounds like altruism,
some of that self-serving too.

965
00:57:06.456 --> 00:57:08.158
<v Jamison>Yeah, I love that, though.

966
00:57:08.158 --> 00:57:10.760
I mean, it's a give and a take, right?

967
00:57:10.760 --> 00:57:12.228
In many ways.

968
00:57:12.228 --> 00:57:13.496
What's next on your journey?

969
00:57:13.496 --> 00:57:16.299
Anything you can share with our listeners?

970
00:57:16.299 --> 00:57:19.436
<v Noltner>Yeah, I don't exactly know
what this is going to look like,

971
00:57:19.436 --> 00:57:24.541
but I do know that we're going to lean
into some international storytelling.

972
00:57:24.674 --> 00:57:25.141
<v Jamison>Awesome.

973
00:57:25.141 --> 00:57:29.179
I've done I've done sort of our studio
process on, on four continents.

974
00:57:29.179 --> 00:57:34.384
I've been in Bangkok, Thailand,
and in Lima, Peru, and in Nairobi, Kenya.

975
00:57:34.384 --> 00:57:40.323
But what I really want to do
is go sit in a place for several weeks

976
00:57:40.323 --> 00:57:44.627
and, and learn 
from different cultures’ experiences.

977
00:57:44.627 --> 00:57:48.231
So I really I want to go to Rwanda

978
00:57:48.231 --> 00:57:51.734
and I want to talk about ways that
they have moved through their genocide.

979
00:57:52.168 --> 00:57:55.705
I want to go to Northern Ireland
to talk about ways

980
00:57:55.705 --> 00:57:59.676
they've moved through their sectarian
violence and ways they haven’t, right?

981
00:57:59.676 --> 00:58:02.879
This is not resolved.
This is not complete.

982
00:58:03.146 --> 00:58:05.315
There are still struggles with it.

983
00:58:06.850 --> 00:58:08.184
I at-

984
00:58:08.184 --> 00:58:12.322
someday I'm going to go to Israel and,
and Palestine.

985
00:58:12.322 --> 00:58:17.460
And now is not the time for me because
I'm not a, I'm not a combat photographer,

986
00:58:17.727 --> 00:58:21.731
and I don't know how to do-
I don't know how to work in that space.

987
00:58:22.031 --> 00:58:24.434
And I'm not sure
if I'm brave enough to work in that space.

988
00:58:24.434 --> 00:58:30.173
But we are talking about
going to Germany, to Leipzig,

989
00:58:30.173 --> 00:58:34.944
to which is the former East Germany,
where they're really struggling

990
00:58:34.944 --> 00:58:39.249
with the rise of anti-Semitism,
and Islamophobia,

991
00:58:39.482 --> 00:58:43.820
and to, to sit in that space
and talk about how they're finding

992
00:58:44.954 --> 00:58:47.590
a common vision
through some of that struggle.

993
00:58:47.590 --> 00:58:49.225
And so

994
00:58:49.225 --> 00:58:52.395
the goal is to visit
places who have navigated conflict

995
00:58:52.395 --> 00:58:56.332
better or worse or,
historically or presently,

996
00:58:56.533 --> 00:59:00.403
and try to take away
some lessons from that as well.

997
00:59:00.770 --> 00:59:05.041
So I, I thought we were going
to start that in a year or so, but now

998
00:59:05.275 --> 00:59:08.778
there are some rumblings and some doors
that are opening as early as this summer.

999
00:59:08.778 --> 00:59:12.482
So if those doors open,
I am not going to say no.

1000
00:59:12.682 --> 00:59:13.182
<v Jamison>Yeah.

1001
00:59:13.182 --> 00:59:14.684
When they open, you go through them.

1002
00:59:14.684 --> 00:59:16.519
[Laughs] Noltner: You say yes. Yup.

1003
00:59:17.654 --> 00:59:19.689
<v Jamison>Lastly, the work we do here at the Facing

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00:59:19.689 --> 00:59:23.426
Project, as you know, is to create
a more understanding and empathetic world.

1005
00:59:23.760 --> 00:59:27.230
This season, I'm asking each of my guests
the same question,

1006
00:59:27.230 --> 00:59:30.233
and I'd love for you
to add your perspective.

1007
00:59:30.333 --> 00:59:34.704
How do we create a more empathetic world
in a time when it feels like listening

1008
00:59:34.704 --> 00:59:38.241
and understanding the lives of others
has actually decreased?

1009
00:59:42.111 --> 00:59:42.378
<v Noltner>You know,

1010
00:59:42.378 --> 00:59:46.549
I have a friend, Joe
Davis, who's a spoken word artist,

1011
00:59:46.549 --> 00:59:51.588
and he says that we do best what we do

1012
00:59:51.621 --> 00:59:55.224
most, which is to say we got to practice.

1013
00:59:55.558 --> 00:59:57.327
We've got to exercise those muscles.

1014
00:59:57.327 --> 01:00:01.197
If you want to be good at free
throws, shoot 10,000 free throws.

1015
01:00:01.197 --> 01:00:04.867
If you want to be good at conversations
around division,

1016
01:00:05.301 --> 01:00:09.005
you got to have a bunch of conversations
around division.

1017
01:00:09.005 --> 01:00:13.943
And when when those muscles are weak,
and I really think collectively

1018
01:00:13.943 --> 01:00:18.748
they are weak right now, we lean into
conflict before we lean into compassion.

1019
01:00:18.748 --> 01:00:23.286
We choose division
before we choose healing.

1020
01:00:24.020 --> 01:00:27.023
And I think we just have to practice
those conversations in the-

1021
01:00:27.457 --> 01:00:30.460
You know, if you're talking about race
or if you're talking about gender,

1022
01:00:30.460 --> 01:00:34.130
if you're talking about orientation,
whatever it is,

1023
01:00:34.831 --> 01:00:37.500
if you haven't
had one of those conversations, it's

1024
01:00:37.500 --> 01:00:40.903
probably going to be weird
the first time you do, right?

1025
01:00:40.937 --> 01:00:43.906
You're not going to
you're not going to do it great, probably,

1026
01:00:43.906 --> 01:00:48.177
if if you're like me, if you're like
everybody, you're going to struggle.

1027
01:00:48.177 --> 01:00:52.849
But if you have some patience
with that process, right?

1028
01:00:52.849 --> 01:00:54.651
Sometimes
we have one of those conversations

1029
01:00:54.651 --> 01:00:58.187
and it goes badly and we run away and say,
oh my God, I'm never doing that again.

1030
01:00:58.488 --> 01:01:01.290
But if we can have the courage

1031
01:01:01.290 --> 01:01:04.494
to come back and do it again,
well, maybe you learn something.

1032
01:01:05.028 --> 01:01:08.031
Maybe by the time you've done ten of them,

1033
01:01:08.197 --> 01:01:11.200
it'll start to be
a little more comfortable.

1034
01:01:11.234 --> 01:01:15.872
Maybe by the time you've done 30 of them,
you've got some level of,

1035
01:01:15.972 --> 01:01:19.509
some capacity
for doing it a little bit better.

1036
01:01:19.709 --> 01:01:21.010
If you do a thousand of them,

1037
01:01:21.010 --> 01:01:24.013
you're going to start
to develop those muscles and those skills.

1038
01:01:24.213 --> 01:01:27.016
And I think we- it takes

1039
01:01:27.016 --> 01:01:30.019
courage to keep showing up
and practicing that.

1040
01:01:30.319 --> 01:01:32.955
And man, if we could have
a little bit of grace with one

1041
01:01:32.955 --> 01:01:36.392
another as we are practicing
that and understand

1042
01:01:36.392 --> 01:01:40.029
that there are going to be missteps
and, and, you know, maybe that

1043
01:01:40.196 --> 01:01:44.067
maybe that wasn't, an assault,
but it was just a misunderstanding.

1044
01:01:44.333 --> 01:01:48.404
You know, maybe if we can find
a little bit of grace and open that space,

1045
01:01:48.604 --> 01:01:51.607
we can all feel a little bit
more comfortable

1046
01:01:51.741 --> 01:01:55.678
doing that, and that,
I mean, these divisions

1047
01:01:55.678 --> 01:02:00.983
and divides
took a long time to to develop and grow.

1048
01:02:02.018 --> 01:02:04.253
They're not going to go away overnight.

1049
01:02:04.253 --> 01:02:08.191
We have to re-weave the social fabric.

1050
01:02:08.591 --> 01:02:11.394
There's a group called
Weave the Social Fabric Project,

1051
01:02:11.394 --> 01:02:13.129
and they're they're one of these bridge

1052
01:02:13.129 --> 01:02:16.132
building organizations
that you were talking about earlier.

1053
01:02:16.199 --> 01:02:21.437
And they're all about small grassroots
efforts

1054
01:02:21.471 --> 01:02:25.808
to re-weave that trust
that is so badly frayed in our country.

1055
01:02:26.342 --> 01:02:30.146
And I hope that people
will be willing to do the hard work

1056
01:02:30.146 --> 01:02:33.149
and to have some patience in the process.

1057
01:02:33.683 --> 01:02:36.652
<v Jamison>John Noltner, award
winning photographer, author and founder

1058
01:02:36.652 --> 01:02:40.123
of A Peace of My Mind, thank you so much
for joining me on the Facing Project.

1059
01:02:40.990 --> 01:02:41.924
<v Noltner>Thanks for having me J.R..

1060
01:02:41.924 --> 01:02:44.460
Great to talk with you. Jamison: Same.

1061
01:02:44.460 --> 01:02:47.196
Learn more about John Noltner
and A Peace of My Mind,

1062
01:02:47.196 --> 01:02:51.701
including books
and upcoming events, at APOMM.net.

1063
01:02:51.701 --> 01:02:56.539
[Theme music]

1064
01:02:56.639 --> 01:03:00.143
<v Jamison>Many thanks once again to John
Noltner for joining me on today's show.

1065
01:03:00.476 --> 01:03:04.947
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1066
01:03:04.947 --> 01:03:08.918
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1067
01:03:08.918 --> 01:03:13.656
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1068
01:03:14.190 --> 01:03:16.793
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1069
01:03:16.793 --> 01:03:20.596
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1070
01:03:21.030 --> 01:03:24.634
The Facing Project is recorded
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1071
01:03:24.634 --> 01:03:29.105
University in beautiful and wonderful
Muncie, Indiana, and is produced

1072
01:03:29.105 --> 01:03:33.242
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1073
01:03:33.609 --> 01:03:36.612
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1074
01:03:36.779 --> 01:03:38.347
I'm your host, J.R.

1075
01:03:38.347 --> 01:03:41.484
Jamison, and until next time,
I wish you the courage

1076
01:03:41.484 --> 01:03:44.620
to share your own story in the empathy
to listen to others.

1077
01:03:44.620 --> 01:03:44.987
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