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Advice to My Younger Self | SELF

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Welcome to Advice to My Younger SELF! Join SELF’s editor-in-chief, Rachel Miller, as she interviews SELF’s cover stars about the life lessons they wish they’d learned earlier.

Welcome to Advice to My Younger SELF! Join SELF’s editor-in-chief, Rachel Miller, as she interviews SELF’s cover stars about the life lessons they wish they’d learned earlier.

10hr 48min
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How to Feel Less Alone
Thumbnail for "Sheryl Lee Ralph Talks About Motherhood, Hitting Big Milestones, and Learning to Be Patient".
Sheryl Lee Ralph Talks About Motherhood, Hitting Big Milestones, and Learning to Be Patient
Thumbnail for "Ali Krieger Talks About Being a Young Athlete, Coming Out, and Motherhood".
Ali Krieger Talks About Being a Young Athlete, Coming Out, and Motherhood
Thumbnail for "Bonus: Get Grounded: Tips and Techniques for Staying More Relaxed".
Bonus: Get Grounded: Tips and Techniques for Staying More Relaxed
Thumbnail for "Bonus: Busting Myths About COVID-19 Vaccines and Black and Latinx Communities".
Bonus: Busting Myths About COVID-19 Vaccines and Black and Latinx Communities
Thumbnail for "Becoming Your Own Advocate".
Becoming Your Own Advocate
Thumbnail for "The (New) Rules of Dating".
The (New) Rules of Dating
Thumbnail for "The Healing Powers of Gratitude and Joy, featuring Kristen Bell".
The Healing Powers of Gratitude and Joy, featuring Kristen Bell
Thumbnail for "How to Have the Best Birth Experience Possible—Even in a Pandemic".
How to Have the Best Birth Experience Possible—Even in a Pandemic
Thumbnail for "How to Actually Start Meditating".
How to Actually Start Meditating
Thumbnail for "Let’s Talk About COVID-19 Vaccines!".
Let’s Talk About COVID-19 Vaccines!
Thumbnail for "BONUS | The High Cost of Caring: Compassion Fatigu‪e‬".
In a special bonus episode, we're bringing you one of our favorite picks from the Savvy Psychologist podcast.
Thumbnail for "Dude, Where’s My Sex Drive?".
Dude, Where’s My Sex Drive?
Thumbnail for "This Wasn't In the Manual".
This Wasn't In the Manual
Thumbnail for "Eating Disorders Don’t Discriminate".
Eating Disorders Don’t Discriminate
Thumbnail for "Creating a Workout Routine (For Real This Time)".
Creating a Workout Routine (For Real This Time)
Thumbnail for "What Is 'Healthy Eating', Anyway?".
What Is 'Healthy Eating', Anyway?
Thumbnail for "Am I Drinking Too Much?".
Am I Drinking Too Much?
Thumbnail for "Sex Tips for Queer People (Or Anyone)".
Sex Tips for Queer People (Or Anyone)
Thumbnail for "Shame Exorcism".
Shame Exorcism
Thumbnail for "Finding the One (Therapist Who Gets You)".
On this week's episode, we discuss when cultural competency is critical.
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How to disconnect from the internet and create a healthier work-life balance.
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How to deal when your anxiety shows up in your jaw.
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Welcome to Checking In: a wellness podcast to help you feel better.

How to Feel Less Alone

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December 21, 202021min 31sec

On this week's episode of Checking In, we hear from Deanne, a listener who lost her husband of 30 years to leukemia. Deanne's question is about moving past her grief and finding ways to not feel lonely—an especially challenging task given the current pandemic. Carolyn speaks with Dr. Katherine Shear, an internist, psychiatrist, and grief expert, plus Nora McInerny, a writer whose career includes two memoirs and countless conversations about death and grief.

Read more about  Dr. Katherine Shear here, and more about The Center for Complicated Grief at Columbia University here. If you’re curious, this page does an excellent job at outlining the difference between grief and complicated grief. You can also learn more about grief milestones here.

Nora McInerny is the author of several books and the founder of the Hot Young Widows Club. You can follow her on Instagram @noraborealis, or check out her books, podcasts, and more right here.

If you’re looking for conversation and candid reflections on grief, check out Modern Loss, which offers advice, essays and more. You can also follow @oh.goodgrief, an online community that periodically hosts virtual gatherings and also offers advice to those who know someone who has suffered a loss.

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If you have a health or wellness question of your own and want a chance to be featured on the podcast, you can submit it here.