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Proxy with Yowei Shaw

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It’s the knot you can’t untangle - a problem so specific, it makes you feel alone. But what if you could talk to someone who gets it? On Proxy, we find just the person you were looking for, a stranger who's lived something close enough to help you get a little less stuck. It’s not therapy - it’s emotional investigative journalism™️. Yowei Shaw, former co-host of Invisibilia, at your service.

If you’re just discovering the show, a good place to begin is Bisexual Wife Guy, Mic Chooses the Wrong Life, or Brian Can’t Stop Fact-Checking His Mother-In-Law. 

The team is hard at work investigating another batch of cases, with new episodes publishing in April 2026 🚀

Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join our Patreon for free to get the newsletter 🍏

Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishaw

Get in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com

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It’s the knot you can’t untangle - a problem so specific, it makes you feel alone. But what if you could talk to someone who gets it? On Proxy, we find just the person you were looking for, a stranger who's lived something close enough to help you get a little less stuck. It’s not therapy - it’s emotional investigative journalism™️. Yowei Shaw, former co-host of Invisibilia, at your service.

If you’re just discovering the show, a good place to begin is Bisexual Wife Guy, Mic Chooses the Wrong Life, or Brian Can’t Stop Fact-Checking His Mother-In-Law. 

The team is hard at work investigating another batch of cases, with new episodes publishing in April 2026 🚀

Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join our Patreon for free to get the newsletter 🍏

Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishaw

Get in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com

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Yaroslava Can't Go Home

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October 21, 202541min 55sec

Yaroslava’s town in Ukraine was taken by Russians. She's now safe in the US. But how do you make a new life when you feel guilty about not being home?

If this episode resonates, you might also try Mic Chooses the Wrong Life or JC's Kids Won't Talk To Her.

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Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includesbonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏

Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishaw

Get in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com

Get in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com

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